Being a 'Leader' for Yourself

Being a 'Leader' for Yourself

A 'leader'Or a leader is someone who leads, either in an organization, company, or in community groups. Being a 'leader'For ourselves is not difficult. There are some things we need to do, so that we can lead ourselves well. Here are some of these:
1. Get to know us.
A good leader is someone who is familiar with the members of the group. Being a good leader for yourself means to know ourselves well. Ask yourself, who am I? What kelebihanku? What flaws? What is my purpose? Try to continue to provide questions to yourself. Do not stop if we have the answer. Do not be complacent, but keep asking and asking. If at any time we get stuck in answering questions, try to continue to dig down to the inside, and find the answer.
Knowing ourselves is the most fundamental if we want to lead ourselves. Why? If a leader leads a group, but did not personally know the members, then he will find it hard to work with them. Similar to lead themselves. If we do not know who we are, our strengths and weaknesses, and what we want, then we will find it hard to lead ourselves.

2. Make rules for yourself.
In an organization or company, the rules are made for each of its members continue to run on the corridor and the goals of the organization or company. A good leader can certainly create and follow rules that have been agreed. Similarly, the rules for yourself. Rules for self-made especially so that we can maintain harmony and balance our mental and emotional.
Examples of rules for yourself that can be applied:
• I need care and attention to myself, just like I care and attention with others.
• I do not have to always say 'yes' to all requests submitted by others, or feel guilty when saying 'no'.
• No one is perfect in this world. try to give you the best.
• I have the right to be treated with respect by others.
These rules are simple things that we usually forget to various reasons. For example, wanting to please others, want to be perfect, and the fear of feeling guilty.
3. Control your emotions.
In conjunction with leading yourself, control your emotions is one important thing to do. Controlling emotion is closely related to self-control. If we can control ourselves, to wisely spend the emotions we feel, we've managed to become a leader for yourself.
Emotion is basically an impulse to act, that encourages a person to respond or act against the existing stimulus. Controlling emotions does not mean cease to feel or even do not express yourself. Control of emotions means that we can recognize, understand, and control the emotions we feel. The point is how we manage our emotions, not vice versa, we are controlled and regulated by the emotion. By controlling emotions, we will be able to do things better. Excessive Emotions tend to drain our energy so we feel more tired, and also make it hard to think well.
4. Be (proud of) yourself.
To be able to lead yourself, other important thing is how we want to be yourself, and also proud of ourselves. Once we know who we are, the next thing to do is be proud of ourselves, so we do not have to pretend to be someone else.
The initial steps can be taken to be yourself is to believe no one is perfect in this world. What we can do is always give the best at every opportunity, not a person who's perfect. If it has to do, then the next step is always proud of whatever we do, whatever the outcome. Because we have given the best and maximum effort in everything we do.
Next, let not glorifying the others, but pride in your strengths and our potential. Believe that each of us is created with different talents. Our task is to develop these talents, not just admire the talents of others. Lastly, delete the ideal standards that we create in our own minds. Ideal standard that we make usually make us feel not satisfied with myself, and continuously pursue the ideal of these. Do not constantly compare ourselves to other people who we think is ideal. To care for ourselves.
5. Give rewards for yourself.
Everyone likes praise, rewards, or even a pat on the shoulder while successfully doing something. A good leader should always give awards to members of the group who managed to do something, just as if we lead ourselves.
As a leader, we usually easier to provide awards and rewards to others than to ourselves. We tend to be tougher on ourselves, we tend to 'force' ourselves to see the shortcomings that we have. This may be because we want to continue to maintain personal motivation. But sometimes we forget that an appreciation and rewards also important given to us.
Reward can bring out the feeling that we do something we want, not just how we force ourselves to do something. Gift rewards to themselves tend to be more effective to reinforce the emergence of behavior we want, instead of 'punishing' us. To implement the system rewards in ourselves, first we have to do is determine a benchmark or target of what we want to do, the next new set rewards what is appropriate for ourselves.
Reward for yourself can be given in the form of traveling outside the city, going to the movies, go to the salon to spa, relaxation with a massage at the health place, buy something related to the hobby, and others.
6. Forgive yourself.
In addition to providing award or rewards to yourself, other things we need to do is to forgive yourself when experiencing failure. Please stop blaming yourself for it will only make us feel hopeless and stressed. Give us the opportunity to grow, learn from the mistakes we have made, and accept failure as a learning process. Blaming yourself will only make our minds a dead end, and it is difficult to see the positive side, what have we learned from a mistake. Conversely, when we receive an error that we do as a learning process, then we will tend to be easier to set foot facing the other thing that is in plain sight.
What should be done so that we can forgive yourself? Here are a few:
• Admit mistakes we have made and Relax it happens.
• Focus on the advantages and potentials we have, do not focus on the mistakes that have been done alone.
• Find out what can we learn from failure that we experience.
• Tell me what we experience with people nearby, and hear their views on the failure or error.
• Stop saying "if only ...". Remember that no matter how hard we tried, what has happened can never change. The only thing that can we make for the better is the present and future. So keep in mind yourself, "I'll pay for a mistake / failure at the next opportunity."